Okay, so a few years while I was in graduate school, a good friend of mine accused me of choosing a career over marriage. I was so offended that such a good friend, one who knows my heart, would say such a thing!
I must say, however, this year I have thought about that comment and find myself wondering if there is some truth to that. Now, let me be clear about something...it is not as though I have 10 temple-worthy men down on one knee in front of me and I am saying to them, "I don't think so...I'd rather have a career." And at the end of the day, I have never dated a man that I feel I can really follow...someone that can lead me if I miss a step and that I want to be with for eternity. But I do have a career. And it takes a lot of time. I am not always able to attend FHE or other such activities in my ward because I am working. This, in theory, could prevent me from meeting someone. But I think there is a larger issue at work here. I have not been feeling the ability to socialize lately. I am typically a very social person but have been going though a spell where I just don't feel like I have the energy to meet new people. Maybe this is me choosing a career over marriage, but I sure don't mean for it to. So how does a girl have a career AND find a husband? I certainly do not plan on sitting on my hope chest waiting for someone, but I am wondering how to find the balance between doing something fulfilling while not giving up on the ultimate long-term goal. And I am not sure I have the answer to this...just something I am pondering.